The other day, I sent away a kid who was trying to sell me a Kirby vacuum. This may not seem like a huge feat, but trust me, it takes more willpower than you’d think, especially for someone who is just learning to say no.
You see, a few months ago I let a Kirby salesperson into my house and accepted the offer for them to clean the floor in one room of the house. Spoiler alert: cleaning that one room actually resulted in a tiny 2 foot by 2 foot square of carpet being vacuumed after having sand poured on it. The entire sales pitch lasted about four hours. FOUR HOURS folks!
Now, I’ll admit right here that I was initially sold on the damn thing until they mentioned the price. There is no way in hell I’m paying $2000 for a freaking vacuum. Of course, they tried to put it in terms of quality and mentioned the “small” monthly payments of $40 dollars a month. Um, nope. When you’re living on a tight budget, that $40 is going to have to come out of your groceries or another more important bill. Not happening.
I tried all the polite ways to turn them down I could think of, but they persisted. Eventually I felt guilty for saying no and started filling out the paperwork. Luckily, Almost-Husband called as I was signing my life away and talked some sense into me. I backed out of the sale, they left in a huff, and I felt bad for basically assuring them a paycheck and then saying “gotcha!”.
The point is, I’m too nice of a person. I constantly find myself saying yes to invitations I have zero interest in. I accept every request made of me and then I feel overloaded. I do this because I don’t want to feel guilty for hurting someone’s feelings when I say “no”.
Over the last several weeks, I found myself overwhelmed with obligations. There was family to visit, weddings to attend, my own wedding to plan, appointments to go to, errands to run, household chores to do, the demands of motherhood, bills to pay, my damn day job, the blogs, the book….eventually, I had to buckle down and start saying no to things that weren’t absolutely essential or related to my target goals.
And it was liberating.
After reading Sarah Knight’s “The Life-Changing Magic Of Not Giving A F*ck”, I am even more committed to cutting out all the unnecessary bullshit than ever before. There is no reason to devote time, money, or energy to things that aren’t enriching my life in some way. If you haven’t read this yet, I highly suggest grabbing yourself a copy.
That said, I feel like things are definitely starting to change for the better around here. One small decision at a time.
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