Month: February 2018

Even Writers Need A Maternity Leave

As we’ve discussed before, writing is harder than it seems. This is especially true if you’re a one-woman show like yours truly. Between the books and the blog and all the promotional stuff that comes with it, it seems like my work is never done.

If you’ve been around for awhile, you know I am pregnant with my second child, which has added its own set of challenges.

The overachiever in me wants to continue writing and posting clear up until delivery and all through the recovery, but I know that that is just not realistic. I’m already tired, I’m going to be sore, and I’m going to want to spend time getting to know my new daughter. All of this is going to leave very little room for putting words on the page. In fact, I’ve already had a hard time getting anything done outside of the normal range of “mom stuff” and nesting. Pregnancy is crazy, yo!

In light of this, I wanted to get  a head start on resting up and be prepared in the event that the little one decided to make an early appearance.  For the next 8 (or so) weeks there will not be any new material on this blog, however I will try to respond to any comments and emails as time allows.

And, because I know it’s the question on everyone’s mind, I promise the fourth installment of my “Instruments of Life” series will be coming out in the near(ish) future! I had hoped to have it out before the little one arrived, but that was clearly a silly misjudgment on my part. I will be continuing to work on it as much as possible and will let you all know as soon as a realistic release date is determined.

I wanted to take a moment to thank you all for your support and readership, and for your patience and understanding while I make the transition from a work-at-home mother of one to a work-at-home mother of 2. I can’t wait to come back with some new stories and insights for you all!

In the meantime, keep an eye on my Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook accounts, as I’m sure I will find time to update those with pictures of the new little bundle.

Until next time, I wish all of you nothing but light and love!

10 Most Romantic Songs

With Valentine’s Day coming up, we all have love and romance on the mind. Naturally, for me this includes listening to music that makes me think of those themes. Of course, I always find myself irritated by the lack of rock n roll on most Valentine’s themed playlists, so I decided to pick 10 of my very favorite romantic tunes to share with you today. Many of these songs served as inspiration as I worked on the books in my “Instruments of Life” series, and even more were part of my wedding playlist.

This isn’t your run-of-the-mill list of soft ballads. Like anything, love has many facets and I’ve tried to represent as many of them as I could. I hope you enjoy these selections as much as I do!

Touch Too Much-AC/DC

There’s a reason this is in the number one spot on this list. While it might not be a romantic song in the traditional sense, it’s certainly one of those songs I hear and think, “I wish someone would write something like this about me.”  To me it perfectly captures that all-consuming, raw passion that comes with new love. Who wouldn’t want to bottle that feeling?

 

 

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New Tattoo-Motley Crue

I almost chose another Crue song, “Without You”, for this spot, but I felt this more clearly fit my own view of romance. I love the realness of this song. Who doesn’t love big, stupid displays of emotion? Especially one as permanent as getting your lover’s name or face tattooed on your body?

 

 

 

 

Something-The Beatles

Sometimes, you really do need a soft, beautiful ballad. The simplicity of this song is beautiful on it’s own, to be sure, but it’s the lyrics for me that bring it home. Tender, heartfelt, they paint a picture of a love that’s incredibly pure.

 

 

 

 

Inside Your World-Godhead

This is the song my husband and I chose for our first dance at our wedding. Of course, this song had been important to us from the beginning. Honestly, it also makes me think a bit about the characters in my books as well, as it tells the  story of a love that’s deep, but guarded. For me, it describes a willingness to push past those barriers and become unified and it’s a beautiful sentiment.

 

 

 

 

This I Love-Guns N Roses

I feel like I could write a novel about all the things that make this song amazing. In fact, it may have been responsible for huge chunks of my “Instruments of Life” series. That said, I think it can all be summed up by this one line: “I searched the universe and found myself within her eyes.”

 

 

 

 

Mista Bone-Great White

Okay, okay, this is definitely more lustful than romantic, but this always makes the cut for songs that make me feel amorous. With lines like “I’m gonna play you like a rhythm section”, can you blame me for including it?

 

 

 

 

The Story- Brandi Carlile

This might be the sappiest song on the list. In many ways, it’s your standard “I was made for you” song (in fact, that line is even in the song), but it’s done so masterfully that it doesn’t come off as cheesy at all. I love the message of truly sharing all of yourself and building a love that’s enduring.

 

 

 

 

Lay Your Body Down-Poison

This one has a hint of tragedy to it, which I think makes it all the more wonderful. Sometimes love is messy. Sometimes you have to be facing a possible ending to find a new beginning. This song captures that perfectly.

 

 

 

 

Until I Get You-Hanoi Rocks 

Who doesn’t love that feeling when you begin to fall for someone? This is a perfect “I’ve got a crush on you” song, which I think is a stage that is often overlooked when we think of romantic songs. What I love most about this song is how much I want to believe he gets the girl in the end.

 

 

 

 

Maybe I’m Amazed-Paul McCartney

Seriously, I feel like Sir Paul just kind of plucked this song out of the ether. It just feels so heartfelt and pure that I can’t imagine it having to be “written”, just brought forth. Honestly, if this were a numbered list, this would probably be number one.

 

 

 

 

What about you? I would love to hear what songs make your list! Fill my comments with your picks for “most romantic” songs and I’ll give thiem a listen!

 

 

 

7 Things I Forgot About Pregnancy

When my husband and I decided to try for another child, I was prepared for the possibility that it would take us awhile and that there would likely be a few false starts before we got one to stick. After all, getting our first child had been quite the journey. However, I also thought that the pregnancy itself would be a breeze. In my mind, I’d done it all before, so I’d know what to do.

Well, folks, as it turns out there’s a lot I’d forgotten about in the 5 years since I’d last experienced a viable pregnancy and a whole host of new things I hadn’t experienced with the first.

1.  Exhaustion

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was 25 years old and dealing with a lot of changes. Between changing jobs and losing my grandmother, I chalked up most of the tiredness to life. For the first several months we lived with roommates, and I had plenty of time to rest. This time around, the exhaustion has been intense, but I have nothing to really blame it on but the pregnancy. Sure, I’m still trying to keep the household running smoothly, get as much writing in as I can, and deal with the demands of my daughter, but it’s definitely the changes my body is going through that is making me nod off in the middle of the day. Luckily, my husband remembered this particular symptom and has been extremely understanding. If I didn’t have him to pick up the slack, this house would be nothing but chaos!

2. The Laundry List of Aches and Pains

Tender breasts, back pain, headaches, hip pain…seriously, I forgot about how uncomfortable this whole growing a human process is. This is especially true the further along I get. The “morning” sickness has still not let up entirely and we’re only a month away from my due date, which I was definitely not prepared for. On the plus side, the lack of appetite has made this a “belly only” pregnancy, so there’s that.

3. The Crazy Hormones

I don’t remember being particularly hormonal with my daughter, however I’m sure my mother, husband, and best friend would all disagree. This time around, it has been quite noticeable.  Beyond the typical weepiness over seemingly everything from a touching moment on TV to not being able to find my shoe, there are those moments when it seems like I’m experiencing 800 different emotions at once. Those moments are both fascinating and terrifying. On the one hand, being able to feel so much is kind of cool, but man, the intensity can be a bit much!

 

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4. All The Icky Stuff

Holy cow, there’s so much grossness that comes along with pregnancy! At first it was the constant morning sickness that got me down. Then came all the other yucky stuff. Constipation, peeing nonstop, and all the other “fun” things that all us mommies know all too well. I feel like I’m constantly Googling “is this normal?” I guess our minds shut that stuff out so we aren’t so leery to do it again!

5. The Excitement

The idea that there’s a tiny human growing inside me is crazy. Before long I get to meet this amazing little being and I can’t get over the giddy feeling. Every little kick reminds me that our hearts and lives are about to become that much more full (cue aforementioned weeping). I’m constantly imagining what she will look like, what her temperament will be, and all the new adventures our family will have. The anticipation is beautiful.

6. The Fear

This one surprises me. I honestly thought that I would be less scared with the second child, but I’m actually more nervous this time. There’s fear about how my daughter will take the changes to our daily lives, fear about whether or not I can really handle another child, fear about how it’s going to affect our finances, and a host of other worries I didn’t have with the first. There’s also the usual anxieties about the health of the baby and, of course, about all the things that could go wrong during delivery. Oh, and there’s naturally the worry about how The Princess will handle having to share everything, including her parents. I know that it will all be fine and that we will find our new normal soon enough, but man…I didn’t expect this particular ingredient of the emotional cocktail!

7. All The Rules

Don’t eat this. Don’t move like that. Sleep on your side…no, not that side! Don’t clean the litter box. This medication is unsafe. Seriously, it gets to feeling like pregnancy is one big minefield and any misstep can end in disaster. Of course the big ones, like giving up wine, were obvious and never escaped my mind, but there are so many little things that I entirely forgot or didn’t know the first time around. Again, I feel like Google has been my best friend as I try to figure out what is safe and what isn’t this time around, which isn’t always helpful. There’s definitely a lot of critical thinking and judgement making to this whole growing a person thing!

As I type this, I am truly amazed at how much I didn’t recall from my first pregnancy. I’m also amazed at how different it has been this time around. All these differences really make you appreciate how special pregnancy really is. No two pregnancies are alike, just as no two people are alike. It really is a whole new journey!

I can’t wait to share  the next phase of this experience with you all, as I’m know this little lady’s grand entrance will be quite different from her sister’s as well. I look forward to the many changes about to come our way and can’t wait to see what lessons are hiding there. After all, I’m not only bringing her life into the world, she’s bringing me a whole new life as well.

 

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