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Can You Really Have It All?

As you all know by now, every now and then I get the urge to sort through posts from my first blog. Usually, I’m looking for something I can update or expand upon when I’ve run out of ideas, but sometimes I run across a post that I love as is.  What’s amazing to me is how often the posts I find reflect something I’m currently going through. It seems that sometimes I just need to take a look at the past to get a clear sense of my present.
Lately, I’ve been questioning the notion of “having it all”. Sometimes it seems like an impossible order to fill when we all have so many hats we must wear on a daily basis. Life can easily become overwhelming when you try to take on everything, and it’s easy to wonder why we are working so hard.
As I read over the following post, I was reminded that “having it all” is relative. It is absolutely possible, so long as you have a clear and realistic vision of what “it all” means. The key is to watch your thoughts and know that it will all work out…which is something that is much easier said than done.
Below you will find a little story about how easy it can be, exactly as it appeared on “Life, Motherhood, and the Pursuit of Happiness” on November 18, 2015.
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A fulfilling career. Financial stability. A happy homelife. Great health. Strong bonds with family and friends. Time for hobbies. Personal growth. All these things and more are sure to find themselves on your personal wish list. However, finding the time to devote to all of these things can be excruciatingly overwhelming and prompt you to wonder whether or not “having it all” is even remotely possible.

In fact, that’s a question I have agonized over many times myself. Over the span of my adult life, I have read more books on the subject than I can count. Everyone is striving to achieve some sort of balance and most of us feel as though we are failing in one area or another.

 

Lately, things have been pretty wonderfully for me, and I attribute it to two things:
  1. Changing my outlook from a lens of lack to a lens of abundance and gratefulness, and
  2. Changing my idea of what “it all” really means.
I’m not going to say it has been a perfectly smooth ride and that I don’t find myself slipping back into old habits and ways of thinking. I am only human. However, I have found that the process has been amazing and that I am finding myself ever closer to the life I want.
It’s amazing how much we take for granted in our lives and how much energy we spend wishing we had this or that. We put an extraordinary value on things that we believe will bring us happiness, instead of finding reasons to be happy right now, and never really question why. It’s a hard habit to break.

 

The thing is, when we focus on what we don’t have and ignore the things we do,  we’re inviting that situation to continue. We shut ourselves off from seeing new opportunities for happiness and growth that may be right in front of us. You get what you put out, if all you see is lack, lack is what you’ll get. Keep your thoughts on all the good things you do have, and you attract more good things.

 

The tricky part is knowing where to put your focus. You must do some serious soul-searching and figure out what it is that you really want. What is it that would truly make you happy? What kind of life do you want to live? A successful career doesn’t have to mean putting in 60 hours–although it may for some. A happy family life doesn’t have to mean sacrificing a career or hobbies. The key to finding balance is defining your parameters and trimming away anything that doesn’t serve you. Once you know what you want, you have to go after it with passion, an open mind, and an open heart. Do what you can do in the real world and believe that you can achieve that thing (whatever it may be). Look for new opportunities and creative solutions and then express gratitude when things fall in place.
Now, I’m far from a self-help guru, but these are the things that I have found to be true. I’m sure a lot of you have heard a similar message at some point in your life. Maybe you’ve even tried to apply these principles at one point or another, or maybe you’ve dismissed them as “new age nonsense”. However, in my experience, it works if you stay the course.
Back in August, I read a book called “Anything Can Be” by Jessica Dimas, which is all about applying the Law of Attraction (think “The Secret”). I love the way she approached this topic. I’ve read a lot of similar books, but she writes in easy to understand plain English and really breaks it down. I also love her personal accounts of how these principles have worked their magic in her life. You can purchase it via the image below, and I also recommend you check out her blog, Pig and Dac.
As far as how it has worked for me personally, I can only say that it has made a huge difference in my quality of life thus far. When I started putting it into action, I made a list of the things I wanted immediately that would change my life for the better. I wanted more money coming into our home, more time to spend with my family, the means to make our home more visually appealing, and to start making some sort of profit off of this blog.
Within weeks, things started changing. I got approached to do a review for Mighty Mug and received a free cup from them. I landed a job by chance, even though I hadn’t really been looking. The hours are perfect and allow me to still spend time on this blog. They changed Almost-Husband’s hours at work, moving him to days instead of nights, so we are now able to spend more time together. Our bills are paid up for once and we’ve been able to start working on some home-improvement projects. Things really started coming together, and I foresee many new positive changes in our future.
I could write so much more about how this has worked for me, but it could easily turn into a book all it’s own. Instead, I will continue to keep you updated on the amazing things happening here as they come and wish you all happiness and success as you continue your own journeys. Happiness is possible. But first we must look inside.

 

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39 Comments

  1. By far my favorite post of yours, B. I love this post so much. Your words spoke to me in a way I needed today. "Keep your thoughts on all the good things you do have, and you attract more good things." I need to keep this in mind. It is why I am working so hard on being present. I get so caught up in life that I forget to let myself live.

  2. I agree the tricky part is finding focus. I tend to shift, one week I focus more on one then the other and then flip flop the next week. I am so glad that things are going so well for you. I am a firm believer that happiness, like beauty have to be found within first!

  3. I recently just wrote an article examining the same type of question over parenthood and pursuing your passion (having it all). I really enjoy how you break it down and examine it. It's so true that while I'm focusing on several things in my life that are important to me I often feel like I'm lacking in areas because I have to spread my focus so thin. I'm going to look into Anything Can Be :). Also, there's a TEDtalk that always inspires me when I'm struggling with working hard to "have it all" or find focus. I'll find it and attach it in a reply!

  4. Thank you so much! I'm glad I was able to make an impact with my words! I am with you, I also get so tied up in day-to-day nonsense that I lose track. However, recognizing that is the first step to changing it! Keep after it, and have faith!

  5. You know, I do that a lot too. I think that it's healthy and probably a more realistic example of the balance we are all searching for. Thank you so much for your kind words!

  6. Thank you! I hope that you are able to come closer to finding balance yourself! It's definitely a worthwhile journey! I'll be sure to check out that link, thank you for sharing!

  7. Positive thinking has a huge power. You are right too often we think about what we don't have and what we want, instead of appreciating what we already have.
    Congratulations on all the positive changes!
    #sharewithme

  8. Thank you! It's definitely been a long road–and I'm still a work in progress–but I'm getting there!

  9. That is wonderful how many positive changes have happened in your life. I agree that happiness must come from a place gratitude rather than want.

  10. How amazing all those awesome things happened for you! I am definitely going to check out that book!

  11. Finding focus on the positives does help keep your life on a good path. Glad to hear about all the positives you're experiencing 🙂

  12. Your email made my day, and I loved reading this post because it's so inspiring to hear about the magic happening in others' lives. That is so awesome that you've manifested all of those things!! It really is amazing what we can bring into our lives when we put our focus on what we want from a positive perspective (rather than what we don't want). So happy for you and thank you for the inspiration <3

  13. Thank you! It's amazing, once you shift your focus you realize what really matters and the rest seems trivial!

  14. Thank you! It's definitely worth giving Jessica's book a read. It really opened my eyes and got me on the path to creating the life I truly want! Best of luck on your journey!

  15. Thank you! I'm happy to be able to share them with you and I hope my journey is somehow helpful to those who read it. Thank you for stopping by!

  16. Thank you! I'm happy to be able to share them with you and I hope my journey is somehow helpful to those who read it. Thank you for stopping by!

  17. Thank you so much for stopping by and for your kind words! You've just made my day! I can't express enough how much your work has helped me out! Thanks again!!

  18. You've been listening to grandma Jane. 🙂

  19. I had a brilliant professor in one of my college courses tell us once that having it all was not possible, but it is possible to have it all at different times at your life: just not all at once. I fully agree with her on this. Juggling a demanding career, family, and extra curriculars all once by yourself is just insane. That's why the majority of women of means hire nannies and maids, because there is only so much they can handle without losing their minds.

    This is a great post and I'm going to have to check out that books as well. Thanks for sharing at the Friday Funday blog hop! 🙂

  20. I am definitely going to check out that book! Thank you for the recommendation! As the soon to be mom of 4 I definitely am changing my idea of what having it all means. And I find if you do that you will be much happier. I find that every morning after I take my kids to school I sit with hot tea and write down everything that I am grateful for and/or that is going right! And its so much! I am so blessed and its just a great way to start the day! #ffbh

  21. I love this positive outlook! You are right that we take so many things for granted and tend to just let life happen to us. It's important to spend a little time each day prioritizing things and being grateful for what we have.

  22. Yes, yes I have been 🙂

  23. I have heard that myself, and I agree. What's interesting is that if we know that we can't truly have "it all" at once, why is that the standard we push? I think this line of thinking needs to be more widely spread, as it would prevent a lot of unnecessary stress.

  24. You're very welcome! I'm always happy to help! I love that idea, I may have to start making a daily gratitude list as well! Good luck on your journey!

  25. I'm glad you liked the post! Shifting your mind to a positive focus can be a challenge at first but the benefits are more than worth it!

  26. This is a great post. I always find that focus is the hardest thing! I partly think that is because I don't take enough time out for myself. It was Blogfest last weekend that helped me come to some decisions! #thetruthabout

  27. Right? Focus can be a killer, especially if you aren't taking time for you! I'm so glad you were able to attend Blogfest and find some time for decision making, it sounds like a lot of people came away from the conference with a renewed outlook and sense of purpose!

  28. I love that you are writing like a self-help guru Brandyn because it shows that you have really learnt something valuable in your life and that good things come when you are ready to have the right attitude. Thanks so much for sharing this with #thetruthabout and yay for things coming together so nicely! 🙂

  29. I love that you are writing like a self-help guru Brandyn because it shows that you have really learnt something valuable in your life and that good things come when you are ready to have the right attitude. Thanks so much for sharing this with #thetruthabout and yay for things coming together so nicely! 🙂

  30. Love your post and honesty and sounds like it really has been helpful. We all need to focus on the forward and positive and it will come back for us. Sounds like a good book. Will have to take note of it. Thank you for stopping by LTM and linking up to SWM. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round of #sharewithme

  31. Thank you so much! It's funny, somedays I wonder if I've learned much of anything, and then I sit down and think about where I am versus where I have been and I amaze myself lol

  32. Thank you so much for stopping by! It truly is a wonderful book and has made a huge difference in my life!

  33. What you wrote here sums it up so well: "We put an extraordinary value on things that we believe will bring us happiness, instead of finding reasons to be happy right now." What a powerfully positive post, Brandyn.

  34. Thank you for writing such an honest post to reflect on. I feel this way too about "having it all." It's definitely a struggle balancing everything. It's wonderful that your positive outlook on life has led to new blessings. Wishing you continued success and lots of happiness as well!

  35. Thank you so much!! All the best to you as well!

  36. Love this idea! A positive and grateful way of looking of at lives. I hope you continue to achieve success! Thanks for sharing at the Manic Mondays blog hop!

  37. Thank you! I hope so too, and I hope all my readers do so as well!

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